Gaslight Effect - one reason for better being independent -
I really hate being stuck by some particular person in any kinds of relationship cuz too sticky relationship makes us just dependent and passive to many stuff.
I usually don't like just wating and expecting something to happen, I rather choose to create a situation or anything and let that happen. Perhaps close to American politics? huh.
when people are desparate to other poeple's acceptance, people tend to get gaslighted. Gaslight effect is quite old term though the vocabulary is not so common. But I'm sure that gaslighted people are increasing in current society.
In short, gaslight effect is a psychological flow that happen someone's mind which is too desparate to other person's love, acceptance, respect, appreciation and more.
The effect is much more likely to happen among close relationships like family, lovers, friends, and relatives.
Among these close relationship, we, consciously and unconsciously, care to be liked by other people and use a lot of emotional and spiritual energy to win it. So like parents to children, people try more to care and take care of them, and try to be lovable for them.
Gaslight effect occur in these kinds of relationship particulary, gaslightee (people who got gaslighted) often lose their emotional control and get panicked and lose their confidence. No matter how confident person the gaslightee was, once they get gaslighted, they can't control themselves.
This kind of effect happen when people try to behave nicely as usual and get denied, criticised, neglected, shouted, and even insulted. These negative actions can be direct and indirect.
In short, people get really panicked and lose self-control when they can't get what they want spiritually from other person particulary who people really love because they rely on them too much and care about those people's reputation and evaluation too much. So once reputation of people you love become harsh, your psychological condition get really unstable by repeating anxious "what ifs."
I agreed with an analysis which stated about the reason why gaslight effect is now such spreading.
A big reason is a social dissolution due to automization and informatization in Japan. Since internet and other information technology developed, poeple recently often communciate on the web. That brought a lot of impact on our lives both positive and negative. As one of negative effect, rampant internet-based communciation have reduced the opportunities of face to face communication especially among youth. Despite online friends, people often have less than 10 friends they actually can enjoy and hang around once a month or two months. The small playing community narrows people's communciation ability and life view. Eventually people rely on fewer people too much and get too anxious when they can't get some emotional approval from them because those few human attention, empathy, love and respect are more limited and not always available.
We surely need to learn more so we can use technology more wisely, as I wrote details in different blog, which is about implications of contemporary 'evolution'' of technology.
You can also read more details in a book.
The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life
In contemporary society, we need to expand more communciation circle around us.
nite!
I usually don't like just wating and expecting something to happen, I rather choose to create a situation or anything and let that happen. Perhaps close to American politics? huh.
when people are desparate to other poeple's acceptance, people tend to get gaslighted. Gaslight effect is quite old term though the vocabulary is not so common. But I'm sure that gaslighted people are increasing in current society.
In short, gaslight effect is a psychological flow that happen someone's mind which is too desparate to other person's love, acceptance, respect, appreciation and more.
The effect is much more likely to happen among close relationships like family, lovers, friends, and relatives.
Among these close relationship, we, consciously and unconsciously, care to be liked by other people and use a lot of emotional and spiritual energy to win it. So like parents to children, people try more to care and take care of them, and try to be lovable for them.
Gaslight effect occur in these kinds of relationship particulary, gaslightee (people who got gaslighted) often lose their emotional control and get panicked and lose their confidence. No matter how confident person the gaslightee was, once they get gaslighted, they can't control themselves.
This kind of effect happen when people try to behave nicely as usual and get denied, criticised, neglected, shouted, and even insulted. These negative actions can be direct and indirect.
In short, people get really panicked and lose self-control when they can't get what they want spiritually from other person particulary who people really love because they rely on them too much and care about those people's reputation and evaluation too much. So once reputation of people you love become harsh, your psychological condition get really unstable by repeating anxious "what ifs."
I agreed with an analysis which stated about the reason why gaslight effect is now such spreading.
A big reason is a social dissolution due to automization and informatization in Japan. Since internet and other information technology developed, poeple recently often communciate on the web. That brought a lot of impact on our lives both positive and negative. As one of negative effect, rampant internet-based communciation have reduced the opportunities of face to face communication especially among youth. Despite online friends, people often have less than 10 friends they actually can enjoy and hang around once a month or two months. The small playing community narrows people's communciation ability and life view. Eventually people rely on fewer people too much and get too anxious when they can't get some emotional approval from them because those few human attention, empathy, love and respect are more limited and not always available.
We surely need to learn more so we can use technology more wisely, as I wrote details in different blog, which is about implications of contemporary 'evolution'' of technology.
You can also read more details in a book.
The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life
In contemporary society, we need to expand more communciation circle around us.
nite!
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